That term may bring up some bad memories for a 
  few of you, but don't worry - I'm not going to be discussing d-i-v-o-r-c-e.  
  I am going to talk about a few things that could 'separate' you from racing 
  (or at least from your bankroll) though, so heads up - here we go . . .
         
        Entertainment versus Income -
        
        You love racing - right? That's why you're in 
  it, and naturally you derive enjoyment, and entertainment from watching and 
  participating in the game.  For most, that's as far as it ever goes, and 
  that's as it should be.  
        For others, the goal of making profits is 
  paramount.  The more serious a player becomes, the less they seek, 
  or even pay attention to the aspect of being entertained.  And again, 
  that's as it should be.  I won't go so far as to say that the two are 
  totally irreconcilable, but I know for myself - when I'm truly out for just 
  the pure fun of it, I don't bet much - if at all.  
        The difference between a 'fan' looking for a 
  days' entertainment and a truly serious player could be likened to the 
  difference between running through a sprinkler on a summer's day as opposed to 
  swimming the English Channel in late fall.  The latter requires stamina, 
  serious commitment, and is full of risk and challenge - the former requires no 
  more than the desire to be happily entertained.
         
        Making money 
        today 
  versus making money long-term -
        These aren't irreconcilable - it's just that 
  the 'mind-set' for the one is quite different than the 'mind-set' for the 
  other.  We all always prefer making money - today and forever!  
  But for some, making money today is an emotional thing.  They would 
  rather 'dumb luck,' or a freak occurrence end up putting money in their pocket 
  than executing the proper value plays all day and not making any money.
        If a person's entire racing career consisted of 
  just a few days at the track - then fine - let the good times roll and hope 
  Lady Luck smiles on those few days.  If, however, you're in this for the 
  long haul and are even half-way serious - then making the proper play is 
  always the primary goal.  Losses incurred while making those plays should 
  not be cried over.  The bottom-line over the long-term will reflect 
  positively and reward this kind of astute and 'correctly adjusted' player.
         
        'Swinging for the fences' 
  versus 'grinding it out' -
        At first these seem like they might be 
  irreconcilably different, but good players usually have a little of both in 
  their game.  Swinging for the fences causes a lot of strike-outs.  
  The bankroll must be larger - the psyche of the player must be fairly immune 
  to longer losing streaks.  When the big hit is made, the player needs to 
  be the kind who can continue on without reacting wildly to that success - 
  another drought may well be right around the corner.
        Grind players are often associated with place 
  and show betting, or win and exacta betting while keying on the legitimate 
  chalk.  The active bankroll can be smaller.  There are a lot more 
  cashed tickets and the losing streaks are shorter in duration.  
        
        But - even long-shot and exotics players fall 
  into a kind of grind.  After all, this is a game that essentially has 
  no end. Surviving to play another day is always key, and any good player 
  pays great attention to that fact.  Even high rollers are, in effect, 
  grinding.  It's just that their peaks and valleys are much more radical 
  than the typical low-price grinder mentioned above.
         
        Picking winners versus making 
  profits -
        On the surface, it appears that these two are 
  almost the same thing and anything but irreconcilably different.  But - 
  that's just on the surface - which is about as deep as the average player ever 
  goes.  The murkier depths of the true reality of betting the races is not a 
  place they want to discover.
        Picking the most winners is not the key 
  to making good money at the track.  If you happen to be one who still 
  thinks that is the case - do this: Bet all the 3/5 to 6/5 horses that come up 
  in any race for the next couple of weeks.  It's guaranteed you will have 
  a higher win % than your racing buddies, but you'll still be in the red. Betting to hit lots of winners is just a slower way to lose. 
  It's uplifting to the Ego - maybe - but ultimately a downer on the bankroll.
        This whole fixation with picking winners is the 
  ruination of many players.  That ole' Ego is the culprit here. A lot of players just need the bragging rights - they 
  need to be able to say, "Yea, I had the winner - it was an easy pick."   
        
        Others - novices in the game - actually believe winning should come readily 
  and steadily without much effort on their part.  They are still under the 
  illusion that it is an easy game.
         
        Betting every race versus 
  limiting and restricting wagers -
        Now we're getting into the truly 
  irreconcilable.  Any one who tries to to play every race - or even most 
  races - cannot win in the long run. 
         It never ceases to amaze that 
  otherwise intelligent people who are successful business persons, and would 
  never think of trying to expand their line of products or services to include
        all types and categories - when these same people get to the track, 
  they think they can bet every type and category of race and still come out 
  ahead.  
        As in all walks of life, individuals have their 
  strengths and their weaknesses.  
        Some handicappers are sharp on the 
  maidens - others aren't  /  some players make good profits on Graded Stakes 
  races - others don't  /  some players are stronger on the minor circuits  / some 
  are students of breeding  /  etc. etc..  In this age of simulcasting, when 
  there are many tracks available to bet every day of the week, why in the world 
  do players want to even try to bet every race?  
        The multi-track situation 
  invites exclusivity and focus.  Players can find a niche/s and/or 
  eliminate whole types and levels of racing. They can concentrate where they do 
  well.  The act of concentrating their energy will of itself increase 
  the results of their play.
         
        Public Knowledge versus 
  Proprietary Knowledge -
        It is extremely difficult to make long-term 
  profits with widely used, publicly available information.  This is a 
  pari-mutuel game (as it's usually played), and anything available to the 
  general public has 'negative expectancy' written all over it.  
        
        I'm not saying that you can't find a novel 
  combination of factors, or a unique mix of public information that will stand 
  you well in this game, but the most commonly available of these (Beyer 
  numbers, the popular "sheets," DRF consensus picks, popular "black box" 
  systems, etc. etc.) are all but useless for those seeking a real edge. Their 
  value has been steadily eroding since the moment they first became public.
        If you can come up with your own unique method 
  that gains you an edge, then you will be "on" certain horses for different reasons 
  than the other players are on them.  Over the long run, this will tend to 
  get you better prices and you'll less often land on the over-bet public 
  darlings.
         
        'Dipping In' versus 'Hanging 
  In' -
        Lots of players expect that, even though they 
  only wager a day here and a day there (often with many days in between), that 
  they should hit it good on those days they have chosen to play.  
        
        Wishful 
  thinking.  
        In a full week's worth of wagering, the actual 
  profits for the week are very often made on a single day - and on that day 
  those profits come in 2 or 3 races.  Now - it could happen that the one 
  day a "now-and-then" player decides to bet will be a good day - but that would 
  be relying on a lucky choice.
        Imagine that a full-time player makes profits 
  in 2 weeks of four and that the profits in those two weeks are made on 6 good 
  days with 3 good paying races on those good days.  That's 18 races that 
  make all the difference in his bottom line for the month. Playing 5 days a 
  week x 4.2 weeks a month = 21 days.  If he is wagering in, say, 12 races 
  a day (multiple tracks) - that would be 252 races in the month.  
        
        The "now-and-then" player bets on, say, 7 days 
  a month.  Maybe a visual  representation will serve better than the 
  statistics would:  Below is the full-time players races for the month.     
  Each mark is a race wagered.
        IIIIIIIIIIII   IIIIIIIIIIII   
  IIIIIIIIIIII   IIIIIIIIIIII   IIIIIIIIIIII  
        
        
        IIIIIIIIIIII   
  IIIIIIIIIIII   IIIIIIIIIIII   IIIIIIIIIIII   
  IIIIIIIIIIII
        IIIIIIIIIIII   IIIIIIIIIIII   
  IIIIIIIIIIII   
  IIIIIIIIIIII   IIIIIIIIIIII
        IIIIIIIIIIII   IIIIIIIIIIII   
  IIIIIIIIIIII   IIIIIIIIIIII   
  IIIIIIIIIIII   IIIIIIIIIIII
        
The red/yellow marks are the 18 crucial wagers that the month's profits were 
  generated by (all the other wagers were just essentially going up-and-down - 
  breaking even at best).
        "Needle in a haystack"
        - for the now-and-thenner guy!  
        If he wagers for long enough at the same skill 
  level as the full-time player - he'll come up with the same approximate 
  bottom-line results.  But, he'd need to bet for three months to 
  get the same ROI and total results as the full-timer did above.  
        
        As I said, most players who can't play 
  regularly just can't understand why they don't win very often.  
        
        Racing 
  time is slower than real time anyway - ever notice that?  
        When you have 
  time to stew over losses between races - or for days or weeks - it can seem 
  like forever.  Then what happens?  They are off onto some new method 
  or service - ever searching for the perfect method that will get them profits 
  all the time.  I read somewhere that the average novice player lasts 
  for less than two weeks on any new method or "system' he tries.
         
        Okay - enough of all that.  You don't need 
  to file any separation papers yet!  Just strive to become aware of the 
  realities of this game, so you can up your performance and your results.